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On Leave – On Work

Another post from Eena:



I was recently on leave for two days. On the first day, Ryx and I had to hang out at the office for an hour or so while waiting for my schedule to go somewhere. In case people came to see me for official business, I printed a sign “ON LEAVE” and placed it on my table. Of course, he asked what it meant, so I explained it to him.

The following day, I didn’t go the Office at all, but Ryx and Dida dropped by there to get something. When I reported back for work, I was amused to see that a sign was still on my table, but this time, it was a handwritten one that read “ON WORK.”


Turns out that it was the handiwork of Ryx who had written “On Work” on the other side of the sign “On Leave” I made.



Now that our Christmas Party is over, we decided to bring Ryx to the office. Anyway, he doesn’t have class anymore and we on the other hand don’t have any urgent task to do.

When we reached the office, we had our usual rounds among the people close to us. The first stop was at the director’s staff where Ma’am Bel was assigned. The usual hi and hello. Then suddenly Eena suggested that Ryx will sing the Christmas songs he learned in school and from us. To our surprise, he started singing JOY TO THE WORLD with O MAGSAYA. JINGLE BELLS and SANTA CLAUS IS COMING TO TOWN followed. He did that without any coercion from us. Then other officemates were beginning to approach the caucus made by Ryx’s singing. They started teasing Ma’am Bel that Ryx was doing a Christmas carol and he deserves something. She was about to get money from her purse but Eena stopped her. Eena’s intention was to show off our son’s talent… nothing more than that. Besides, we don’t want Ryx to get the impression that if he does something he will be rewarded with money. Fortunately, she respected Eena’s decision. So Ma’am Bel gave some candies.

It was the other way around when Ryx reached my workplace. After he was summoned by Ma’am Elsa and then performed his singing, people started giving bills and goodies. Same thing happened when our pretty and bubbly Assistant Director called him to her office. He earned a few bills, some chocolates and a big kiss after his stint!

Later that afternoon, another friend (In-in) saw Ryx at the lobby. She asked Ryx if he can come along with her to her workstation. Ryx was hesitant at first. But when we told him that Tita Annie was there, he allowed himself to be tagged along. He even brought his assistant with him in the person of Kweng-kweng. After his rendition (with the “accompaniment” of Kweng-kweng), In-in and Annie gave the two kids money bills. Other officemates present also gave some. Eena, the instant manager of Ryx didn’t say a thing about it anymore for fear that they might get offended.

Roughly, Ryx was able to raise equivalent to his two months tuition fees and lots of goodies. Carolling indeed is a good business!


Wifey-less Days

Eena is attending a five-day Middle Manager’s Course in Cebu. That’s on Septempver 26-30, 2011. Since her mothers’ birthday is on October 2, we decided that she will pass by Dipolog, her home place to visit her mom on the special day. Wifey will be out for a total of 8 days and will be back by October 3.

This will be her first time to be away since Zyk, our second baby was born last May. She’s still breastfeeding him actually. And for the record, this trip is something monumental considering in her entire office career this would be the longest time she will be out.

So to prepare for the days she will be away, we set aside expressed breast milk. Our quota is a bottle each day. That makes a total of 7 (less one because before she will leave, she will breastfeed Zyk). We’re glad that we were able to meet it…actually we still have one extra. We also made a research on the best way to store expressed milk. It was suggested that it be stored in milk bags so that it will not consume lots of space in the fridge as compared to milk bottles. Since they are not available in the locality we had to resort to on-line purchasing. Good they arrived on time.

On the other side, this will the first time that I will manage the household for that long. I’m wondering what’s in store for me. But in fairness to my Eena dear, she already made all the arrangements at home so that I won’t have to worry lots of things.

Departure Day

Early morning, the entire family (plus Dida to carry Zyk) accompanied Eena to the airport. We hang out with her for a while till it got a bit hot for Zyk. Then we had to go home. Just a few minutes had passed, while on our way home actually, Ryx already asked “Asa si Mama? Gimingaw ku niya.” (Where’s Mama? I miss her.) Poor Ryx.

We spent the entire afternoon inside the bed room. Ryx played Dynomite in the computer (He doesn’t do this on a regular basis) while I was busy playing with Zyk on his play gym. Zyk can control his hands already (How time flies so fast). Later, he looked sleepy so I prepared him a bottle of formula. Ryx also got tired with his computer game so I turned on the media player so he can watch his ever favourite Bob the Builder for the nth time. When Zyk was finally asleep, we switched to Dinosaur movie.

The rest of the afternoon till evening went pretty well.

Day 1

I was one minute late for work because I had to give last minute instructions at home. Everything was okay until I received a text message from Dida that Zyk cried unusually when she was trying to put him to sleep. He only stopped when he was able to sleep. The same thing happened during nap time in the afternoon. Our theory was its teething-related since he kept on sucking his hand and he drools a lot.

Zyk was already asleep when I arrived home from class. So I took the chance of giving Ryx his before-bedtime wash. Kaluoy pud ni sa akong eldest… sige ra makasab-an. Gahi man gud ulo. (uh oh! How do I translate this? Pity naman my eldest. Frequently scolded. Hard headed. Hahaha! Too literal.)

By the way, Zyk took his share of breast milk, after it was cooled down in basin of water, as soon as he finished his morning bath!

Day 2

Around 3am, Zyk woke up and became so active – a product of too much sleep during daytime I guess. We stayed in bed till 4am … the time he went back to sleep. He woke up later around 6am. A few minutes after Ryx also got up. Then we went through our usual morning routine.

While I was at the office, I had to text Dida every now and then to monitor Zyk. He was fine except for the constant crying when he was about to go to sleep.

I arrived home almost 6:30pm already due to our volleyball practice. Zyk was awake this time while Ryx was playing with his toy animals. I ate my dinner fast then took over Dida in carrying Zyk who was asleep at this point. Dida this time assisted Ryx on his bath.

After a while Zyk woke up from his nap. I played with the kids for awhile as I was trying to get a glimpse the series “100 days to heaven.” I took them inside the room when Ryx complained that he was already sleepy.

Zyk slept without any effort. Very good! I was able to attend the demands of Ryx –two bedtime stories with two bottles of milk plus constant fanning on his head because he is not satisfied with the electric fan. Whew!

Day 3

Before Eena left, she already planned the menu for us. Unfortunately, the menu was until today only. In other words, I have to make the menu for the coming days. It racked my brains actually. I didn’t expect that such task which I thought was simple took me hours to finish. Anyway, I was able to come up with the menu until Monday, the time of her return but the ingredients were not complete yet. This means I have to do some marketing either tonight or tomorrow or the days to come.

On other things, everything went well except for Ryx. He was showing symptoms of colds which prompted me to make a research (again) about it. We have to be extra careful this time with Zyk around. Lulu was planning to give her some medications but I stopped her. I advise her to give Vitamin C instead.

Day 4

Around 3am today, I woke up to change Zyk’s diapers. I was so surprised to see Zyk wearing two diapers. One on top of the other! I remember I woke up and changed his nappy earlier. Maybe I was still half-asleep…so, instead of changing it, I put on a new one. Poor Zyk.

Early morning, I discovered that the pages of the recently purchased book “The Grouchy Ladybug” were covered with crayons. Arrrggggh! I scolded Ryx then confiscated the book.

Armed with teether (cleaned and refrigerated per instructions of wifey) as the instant relief of Zyk being crabby, we found out that Zyk’s crying isn’t teething-related after all. Maybe it was just an effect of having less breast milk intake? Hmmmm…

Day 5

Brushing teeth very very late has become a habit. Instead of doing it before going to bed, I was able to do it at 2am or 3am already. No, I didn’t plan to have it that way. It just happened… from day 1! Afraid of breaking the momentum of sleepiness of the kids, I jump straight to bed to join them as soon as we get inside the room. (Hey! I took my shower before eating dinner in case you are wondering!) While in the process of putting them to sleep, I ended sound asleep as well. That explains it.

While at the office today, I received a text message from Dida that Ryx was home from school with his report card. I texted back Dida stating not to give me details because I want to see it myself. I was so excited to see it and it was the first thing I checked when I got home. To tell you the truth, I’m not satisfied with his grades (English – 86; Science – 85; Mathematics – 85). As for his character, it’s another proof that kids have dual identity – “good” at home and “very good” in school.

Day 6

The sleepless nights are taking its toll. I was so weak. But still I managed to continue with our morning routine with Zyk. After that, I instructed Dida and Lulu as to what they’ll do for today. While they were busy outside doing some yard work, Ryx’s friends showed up. I don’t have plans of entertaining them but seeing Ryx so happy with his friends around; I decided to cook something for them. (Instant pancit canton only)

Zyk was so good that he maintained his awake-and-sleep routine. That being predictable, I was able to make myself busy with other things. But things got sour in the afternoon. Ryx started throwing tantrums… a product of no nap during the day. I know he was sleepy but he doesn’t want to sleep. As a result, he became crabby and started craving for some junk foods to which I disagreed. Then he started shouting then crying then shouting and began hitting me! I lost my temper… I was able to spank his hand. He cried so hard and it made my heart melt. He befriended me after a while. I gave him a pack of curls after his very short nap (5 minutes).

Late afternoon, I gave Ryx a short spin around the community.

Day 7

I woke up ahead of my alarm time and was ready to go to the airport to get the breast milk. Since Eena will still pass by Dipolog, she sent the expressed frozen milk to her co-participants at the training who are coming back to Zamboanga. Good thing I was at the airport early because the plane arrived ahead of time.

Eena was actually apprehensive over the milk. When she packed them, the lid was not tightly closed. She actually left one pack because it can no longer fit the chest. So she had to rely on the packing tape to seal the chest. Good thing the milk packs were still frozen when they arrived. As soon as I got home, I sorted the milk packs according to date and piled them inside the freezer. I took two bags (the oldest) and placed them in the ref to be used today.

I thought I could take a nap today. But to no avail. We were actually lying in bed already and Zyk was asleep when suddenly, Ryx got up and complained that he was hungry. I had to get up and prepare the food for him. Of course I could have called Dida or Lulu to do it but opted not to. They have been doing this task Monday to Friday so I’ll take charge. Still manageable anyway.

Ryx’s grades were still bothering me. So, I texted a college classmate who has a son about the age of Ryx but is attending another school. I inquired about grading system. Accordingly, in the school where his son is enrolled, the highest possible grade for first grading period is 84. Well, if that’s the case, my eldest son’s mark is already exemplary. Yihaaaa!!!

Day 8

Around 3am… Brownout! Oh no! Our precious breast milk! Good thing, the current came back after a while. I was actually having lots of scenarios in my head on what to do if the brownout will continue for a long time. When the current was back, I immediately went out to check the freezer. Our precious were fine. Went back to sleep.

5:30am. Got out of bed. Then did my usual stuffs. Then gave specific instructions on how to thaw the frozen milk since it would be their first time to do it.

Now. Yay! I just realized that I’m down to the final day! Can’t wait to see wife back home (she’s arriving in a while – 6pm to be exact)!  I know I should be working and preparing for my class tonight. But who cares! I think I can manage it without any preparation. Anyway, I’m just happy that I was able to survive the 8-day stretch! And most importantly, I’m so excited to be in the loving arms of my wife again.

Almost Showtime

Whew! By next month, our second baby is due. I’m a bit excited, a bit apprehensive and a bit of I-don’t-know-what. Blame it to this video I watched the other day. It was about a mother giving birth. The mother suffered a lot…. she really had a hard time. Now I’m keeping my fingers crossed. I hope my wife wont have a hard time. I don’t know… but I didn’t feel this fear when our first baby was born.  Damn that video!

Still Without A Baby Sitter

Since the time we booted out our baby’s nanny around 6 weeks ago, until now we still cant find for a replacement. It’s not that we look wicked that everytime a prospective nanny or sitter is on the doorstep, she immediately backs off because of our looks. Hehe! And I dont think that there’s a rumor floating around that we are so cruel to nannies/ sitters (unless somebody is trying to sabotage us) which makes us to the list of blacklisted prospective employers, since we treat them like members of the family. We are just so particular with baby sitters because they will be entrusted with great responsibilities. Let us not talk about the responsibilities here because I think we need a separate entry for that.

Anyway, how are we managing life without a nanny? Everything is under control. Ha! In my dreams. Our housekeeper now is doubling up for the tasks of the nanny. Actually, her other responsibilities were now unattended. She get to look for them only on weekends when we are around. If we are free, we also try to help her out as much as possible. She might get fed up with the present setup and leave. We cant lose her you know! Not now!

My wife can not just leave her job also and become a full-time mom. We need her pay also to survive. Especially these times when the price of everything is going up.

Just the other day, there was a prospective yaya who applied. Somehow, she was able to meet our standards so we decided to get her. She was supposed to start working today, but she didnt show up. My wifey texted her and found out that she is not coming for some reasons. Whew! I thought our problem is solved already. Grr!

After a few minutes, there’s another prospective yaya. We haven’t seen her yet. But she’s coming tomorrow for an interview.

I’m keeping my fingers crossed… and this is my only prayer: Lord, I hope this is the one!

The Very Hungry Caterpillar

Yahoo!!! I’m so happy that we were able to find a copy of this book by Eric Carle.

Months ago, when Ryx was about three months old or so my wife bought THE VERY BUSY SPIDER also by the same author. She found it in a shop downtown which sells used books ( We prefer used books because they are cheap. But trust me, you need talents to find a good one! Hehe!)

Anyway, this busy spider book became Ryx’s all-time favorite. If you will put all his books on the table and let him choose which one he prefers, instantly he will pick the busy spider book. Even if you will try to hide it by covering it with other books Ryx will really look for it. It even reached that point wherein, Ryx preferred the story of the busy spider instead of lullabys in going to sleep. Hehehe!

Because of that, we tried to search the net for other books by the same author. That was where we came across the book about the caterpillar. From that day, the search for the book was on. We tried internet sites such as eBay and Wahoy ( second hand pa rin! Hehe!)… Went back to that shop to look for a copy… Went to other shops which sell brand new books… Ask a friend overseas a favor to check it out… But everything was to no avail. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be. So we scrapped the idea of owning that book.

Not until yesterday. Without any plans of visiting the same shop where we bought the busy spider book, our feet brought us to the place. We rummage through the pile of books then presto! We found the book!

No Appetite

Lately, we are having a hard time feeding Ryx. He seems not interested in food and we dont know why! Before, we noted that he doesnt want to eat recycled food. I mean, he prefers freshly cooked food. Now, whether recycled or fresh, he will just eat three or four spoonfuls then stopped. Its either, he will push the spoon away or he will open his mouth but will spit them out right after.

As far as milk intake, nothing has changed. In fact, he is taking more now than he used to. Maybe you would conclude that this explains why he has no appetite for food. But trust me, we tried not giving him milk before meal time. But, same thing happened. 😦

Could it be possible that this has something to do with teething? He’s cutting teeth – two upper front. One is very visible already while the other is about to come out. I hope so. I hope these two are interrelated.

Sigh! How I wish Ryx could already speak. So he’ll tell me what’s going on. That wont keep me guessing!